My friend recently had a baby. Last week, I went to visit her and hold the sweet new baby girl. We had a nice visit, and as I drove home, I noticed that I was in such a good mood. My spirit was really lifted just from being around my friend. The more I thought of her, the more I realized that I have a similar experience every time we are together. Being around her and seeing the way she treats her family makes me want to be better. A better mother, a better wife, a better Christian.
I am blessed with several people in my life who encourage and inspire me to live out my full potential in all aspects of my life. When I think of my friend, I am reminded of the wife of noble character, as described in Proverbs. Reading this passage, I made a list of just a few of my friend's many notable characteristics that not only point me to Christ, but also align with scripture and with the Biblical description of a noble woman. Here are five of the many characteristics of a Godly friend.
1. She doesn't belittle others. My friend may come to me, in confidence, about a tough situation she faces, but she never talks bad about anyone. Even if I see my friend as the victim in a situation, she never points fingers. She always gives people the benefit of a doubt.
2. She uses kind language and soft tones. My friend has three small children, and I have never heard her yell at them in anger. Even when her children do something wrong, my friend is able to find ways other than yelling to point her children in the right direction. She is firm, and her children respect her.
3. She is disconnected. But in a good way! When I am with my friend, her phone is nowhere in sight. She has deliberate and direct conversations with me. She is so disconnected that sometimes it takes her a day or two before she replies to my texts! I envy this about her. Many people are just unable to be disconnected in this sense because of work, family, or other situations. Many people do not want to be disconnected, which is ok, too. However, I struggle with being too wrapped up in what goes on online and ignoring the life around me. I believe God wants us to balance our interactions and how we spend our time. Technology too often causes an imbalance in my life.
4. She is humble. My friend laughs at herself and tells me about her flaws and quirks. She is always working at being a better person; a better Christian. Nothing about my friend is forced or insincere. She is real and honest. She is always working for her family, but she never toots her own horn. She would rather lift someone else up.
5. She is hardworking. I am amazed at the effort my friend puts into her work at home. She bakes, cleans, home schools her oldest son, and care for babies. She does not have a lazy bone in her body. Just being around her makes me want to spend less time on my couch and more time being productive.
My friend has so many other personality traits that encourage me to be better, and these verses describe her very well:
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
May we all surround ourselves with people who bring us closer to Christ. May we point others to Him, too.