“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” - Proverbs 17:22

I recently found a picture of me around the age of 13 or 14 standing outside of my parents house with my arms crossed. I looked, well, cross.

My mind tracked back to figure out what was wrong with me that day.

Crazy how in one moment my mood was high--reminiscing on the good ole’ days and when I came across that picture, I was brought to a somber state.

I sucked the life out of my own party.

It makes me think of how often people have sucked the life out of my party and how many times I’ve done the same to others, because of my bad attitude.

I remember a situation in college. I was frustrated about something and I found myself in the Student Center being abrasive to everyone I encountered. Then one guy said, “yo, take your miserable a** somewhere else please. Don’t bring me down with your drama.”

A lot has changed since then. Now people wonder why I am always upbeat.

I’ve learned that my attitude can give life or take life. Think about it; my own picture brought my mood down.

What about you? When people encounter you, are you giving life or sucking the life out of the party?

Have you ever said anything like this to excuse your bad attitude? “I am not a morning person”; or “I haven’t had my coffee yet”; or “this weather brings me down”; or “I am dealing with a lot right now.”

While all of these may be valid reasons for mood changes, we should know that our attitudes give life or take life. We can be real without being real depressing.

Here’s the bottom line:

The value of our relationships will be determined on our deposits and/or withdrawals.

My encouragement is that we make more deposits by reminding ourselves to be positive when we encounter people. We will feel better, our relationships will be healthier and we’ll find ourselves giving life to the people around us which, in the end, will increase the quality of our own life!

In the next post, I will share a few ways we can create positive encounters with others that bring joy and don’t suck the life out of the party!